The secret behind every good divorce agreement

The separation process brings past grievances that contributed to the breakup to the surface — the insults, the hurtful words and the contemptuous treatment. The natural inclination is to try to make the other person pay for the hurt through the children or the financial arrangements, and that is a mistake.
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